Chris, Thank you for your kind words. Although these irrational thoughts can get the best of me at times, you are right.

L, Thank you for your reply! Yes it is very comforting to know someone else is feeling the same way. Most of my friends have never gone through this type of thing so to actually talk to someone who has is really amazing. Thank you for your tips, It is definitely a daily struggle right now but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I also wish you the best with your journey, thanks again!

Hi Alexandria,sometimes things don’t work out the way u want them to,I will say to forgive and move on not for anyone else but for ur own peace of mind bcoz it takes less energy to love and forgive than to stay angry and hold a grudge.and also if that person deserved u he won’t have ever leave u alone.don’t isolate yourself,share your feelings with people u genuinely care about and u will b back to urself where ur true power lies.after the darkness of night the bright day comes.its only a step of courage that cr.sandeep

He only lives around the corner from me so it makes me feel yuk that my whole relationship with him was all lies

‘ Literally, the second we broke up he was dating this girl I had weird vibes from… I was so heartbroken. I kept asking, “How can you just throw away 2 years like it means nothing to you?” I was being a huge social media creep and couldn’t stop looking and comparing. Your situation totally resonates with me.

But I have good news – those feelings will go away with time and you will realize that you are SO happy you aren’t with him anymore. You will also realize that your relationship with him has helped you learn about yourself and also what you DO want out of a relationship. So when Mr. Right comes along, you may realize, “Wow, I’m glad I’m not with So-and-so and I’m glad I learned something from that experience.” That’s one way I looked at the positive, and it really helped ?? Something I also did that really helped and felt good was write a letter to my ex. I didn’t give it to him or anything, I just wrote all the things I wish I could say with no filter. It felt great to get the anger, resentment, sadness on paper in front of me. Maybe try that! Or take up a hobby to release some steam. It’s good that you cut off contact for 2 months, and it’s unfortunate you came across a photo. Just remember: don’t compare your behind the curtains with somebody’s highlight reel! You got this ??

Hi Alexandria, I’m in very much the same boat, it hurts a lot and I see him everywhere and there’s so many painful reminders everywhere I go I pass him every morning and afternoon on the way to work and there’s only one route to get to work. Such a struggle to put the past behind you when it’s in your face all the time. Reading so much on letting go of the past and to accept it and move on. Desperately trying to put this behind me. Unfortunately I work in a job that is fairly slow paced and a lot of the time I have the office to myself – so much time to overthink all the things I could have done to change the situations of the past and all the regrets and hurt. I know this will make me stronger but I just want to move on already and be happy without having my stomach in knots all the time. I have experienced so much that a 24 yr old shouldn’t have to deal with. It’s been a lonely road and full of people who use my kindness to their advantage and walk all over me. I don’t have a very active social life because of this. Distractions serve as a good tool to move on and to stop the overthinking but there’s only so much tv or books you can read. Does anyone have any suggestions that may help? I read books and do lots of exercise, yoga & meditation but always being on my own and feeling disconnected from other people leaves this emptiness inside me. I think so much about his life with her – its damaging me and I don’t want to think about it but its a thought pattern that is very much ingrained in my mind. I was the fun on the side while he had a r/ship with Amara hot girl another person. I know he doesn’t deserve me but he made me happy and it’s hard to believe I will find someone who will fill that space again. I want to be a strong independent woman who can focus on herself and not need anyone to feel fulfilled. I want to be happy being on my own. I know time will help but months go by and it’s still the same. If anyone on here is going through this and has any wise words would be great to hear from you. Thank you x

Perhaps some people think it is connected with Roy and HG’s use of the word “date”. It would not surprise me.

Personally I think 2 dates should be enough to know if a person is going to be worth continuing to see.

Anymore than 2 dates whilst dating other people means that someone’s time and money is being wasted

Thats how you can then make a decision that isn’t settling and makes the chance of regretting it later on much lower.

I disagree. I think it’s important to identify what your expectations/needs/wants are early on. If you want to marry and have children but your partner does not, this could be a major dealbreaker. Something like that needs to be put out there sooner rather than later so there are no misunderstandings or hurt caused later when the feels have kicked in.

People have sex on the 2nd-3rd date these days, wanting to go exclusive at that point makes you look crazy, even if you have no intention of seeing anyone else you barely know that person.

You usually can read between the lines as to what usually is expected if a female is really really into you; and I’ve gone as far as telling this one in particular that I’ve deactivated / hidden my profile and cancelled my membership as well.

The norm in western society and thus if terms left unspoken, is mutual exclusivity. That said, as long as all parties are aware of it up front and are consenting of their own free will to it, then there’s no problems at all. If it’s done behind peoples backs or if consent isn’t given, then it’s cheating.